Apr 6, 2009

On the subject of family.....

So I went "home" this weekend to see this little munchkin. My best friend just had her first baby, and since she decided to arrive late while I was in Thailand, I had to wait to meet her. She is just a doll. I watermarked the photo to protect the innocent. =) I had a grand photo session with her, but will refrain from posting those pics on a public blog, since my friend would rather I not. But, boy is she cute let me tell you!

By the way, what is it about the town I grew up in that makes me still refer to it as "home." More and more, this house and this town I live in now are feeling like "home", but still, my first instinct is to call my childhood place, "home."
And of course, my children also love Grandmom and Grandad's house. It's not the house I grew up in, but I am just as comfortable there. And my daughter also calls them "Mommy" and "Daddy". I'm not sure how I feel about that, except to say, that I am glad that she feels that close to them. They love the park by their house which my parents take them to frequently, and Hunter especially loves this tree. Rather short with wide branches, it's his first climbing tree.

Look at her just delighted on the swings with her grandparents.

When we got home from my friend's house, Grandad was sitting on the front patio talking on the phone. Hunter immediately crawled right up into his lap just to snuggle in. My kids love their grandparents. It warms my heart. The whole time I was there, they did the bedtime routine. I guess they had developed a system while we were in Thailand, and it just continued this weekend. You would never know as an outsider looking in that my Dad is really my stepdad. Nor do I even see him as such anymore. It's just another testimony to the healing and blessings that God has brought our family. A family submitted to God, who has been through the desert and because of faithfulness, has been brought to the promised land on the other side. Both my mother and my stepdad took the high road on a path littered with broken dreams, they were faithful in the darkest of times, and God gave them back blessings tenfold and brought healing. So I cannot sympathize with those who justify wrong doing because of the dreadful hand life has dealt them. Be faithful.
Our family is full, loving, and joyful. And if you knew my family's broken past (there is no need to give the many years of dreadful, lonely, discouraging details here)....well, you would see the miracle, and the love that can form such a tight bond within a blended family. Blended? Well, with my stepdad and my family, the pieces of the puzzle have been so fused together, it would be tough to see that there had been two broken, seperate pieces in the first place. I look at the above pictures, and that's what I see behind every photo.

I have never blogged before about my family, but recently, I have noticed several people around me taking the easy way out on a tough situation. But not the high road. The tough road. The faithful road. So while it looks justifiable to throw in the towel, DON'T! "Do not be deceived, God is not mocked, whatsoever a man sows, so shall he reap." We would NEVER have reaped such a delightful family, full of life and love, had they taken the selfish way. And all of their children would have paid the price. But what a temptation, since they endured years of loneliness! How justifiable right? Take comfort in our Lord. He is not purposely trying to sabotage your life! He wants to bless it out of His great love for you! On the contrary. He sympathizes. He KNOWS. He wants to walk with you in it as you wander in circles. He holds your hand, and sometimes even your head up. He wants you to do the right thing so you can reap the amazing results. He doesn't want you to sabotage yourself by jumping ship when the ship is sure to be rescued! Because if you walk with our Lord, the ship is sure to be rescued. Just look at what He has done in our life. CS Lewis wrote a book called, "Surprised by Joy", when his wife Joy died of cancer. Yes, she died, and yes, there was joy on the other end of the darkness. When God rescues you from your darkest hour, it's always in a surprising, unseen, joyous way. Well, afterall, He's God you know. YOU would have never been able to accomplish that. Our first instinct is to jump ship, remember? "Sorrow lasts for a night, but joy comes in the morning." It's true, it's true, it's TRUE!


  1. This is a beautifully written post, BP. Also, I'm hoping I get to see the little "munchkin" myself when I'm "home" next week, too!

  2. Thank you, Jenny, for writing such a beautiful blog about our family. I feel the same way about it - God has completely healed us and what joy there is! You are a joy, Jenny, and I enjoyed all the Easter and park photos on your blog today. Love you.

  3. Jenny, thank you for your wonderful expression of how important family is, and how God has blessed the Stovers and Pates by bringing us together in a remarkable way. You are a beloved daughter to me, and I love all 7 of our children, and Hunter and Ainsley, and cherish your Mom as my dear companion, friend and soulmate. I love you and your family a lot, and hope you have a wonderful Easter. Have fun with the new camera-Tone' is a special guy!!